The Romantasy Therapist
Celebrating ways Romantasy helps support our mental health
The Romantasy Therapist is a qualified and experienced relationship and trauma therapist
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Romantasy couples have great sex. Some of them even produce lightning when they climax – we all think of Violet and Xaden on a stormy night. But mortals often have a tougher time, and the more worrying sex becomes, the more this anxiety causes problems.
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We have a privileged view of Romantasy characters’ thinking which is often highly relatable. The characters share the same doubts and misunderstandings as the rest of us, sometimes using the same strategies to self-regulate. For instance, while she’s training with the witches, Vaasa in Rebecca Robinson’s The Serpent and the Wolf is asked to name…
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Couples often have a special way of talking to one another, including pet names, funny words and even kooky sounds. They often use a form of baby talk which can make observers uncomfortable, as witnessing the way they interact can feel intrusive, if not a bit gross. It isn’t that there’s anything wrong with baby…
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In The Book of Azrael, Dianna’s sister Gabby doesn’t understand why she can’t leave her abusive boyfriend Kaden or give up the work he makes her do. Gabby notices the bruises on Dianna, how she is always hypervigilant and jumpy, and wants her to have a more normal life where they can hang out together…
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Romantasy characters undergo a huge amount of change, often not of their own choosing. Obvious examples include Violet Sorrengail in Recbecca Yarros’ Fourth Wing who finds herself joining Basgiath War College as a dragon rider rather than as a scribe, which is what she had always expected. In Sarah J. Maas’ A Court of Thorns…
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Around the time Freya starts to become attracted to Bjorn in A Fate Inked in Blood, the pair are forced to hide, crouching down, shoulders touching, as they keep a look out for enemy vessels on the coast. As they watch, Freya becomes acutely aware that they’re so close they can smell each other, and…
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ROMANTASY characters have a lot to worry about so, it’s no wonder they often have difficulty sleeping. They do often comment on what helps them to drop off. Sometimes it’s strong faerie wine or a potion, but more often it’s a comfortable environment, sex or helpful self-talk that does the trick.
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Do you swerve hugs and kisses with your partner in case it leads to something more sexual? In Romantasy, one or other or both of a couple often avoid being too close in case they succumb to sexual temptation. This is usually either because they think the other one isn’t really attracted to them or…
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COUPLES in Romantasy often sense a connection between them, even when the way they’re both behaving and speaking suggests they’re enemies. For instance, for no reason she can make out, Mische from Carissa Broadbent’s The Songbird and the Heart of Stone, feels an intimacy between herself and Asar though they have only just met. Mortals…
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In Kaylie Smith’s dark fantasy romance Phantasma, Blackwell helps Ophelia to self-regulate with breathing exercises when she is unable to sleep due to intrusions from The Shadow Voice. In Danielle L. Jensen’s A Fate Inked in Blood, Freya wishes there was a way ‘to not be constantly thinking’. Bodil teaches her breathing exercises to help.…
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